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Divine Feminine Energy: "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

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I have just finished reading "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. It was a very insightful and inspiring read. I recommend it to anyone and everyone, not just women!

Two of the points she discusses are acceptance of one's sexuality and acceptance of one's body. It is difficult for women to learn to accept themselves due to the pressures and shaming of Western civilization. Emily discusses how acceptance is a crucial key for achieving great pleasure and sexual ecstasy, and she has the science to back it up! What's important is accepting yourself for who you are and all that you are, and not looking to others for their acceptance or approval.

Women have been shamed for too long. It's a critical point in time for women, feminine-presenting people, and non-binary people to step into their power. One of the ways we as a collective can do this is through not only acceptance (of our sexualities and bodies), but connecting to our Divine Feminine.

Some women/feminine-presenting people/non-binary people feel much more connected to their Divine Masculine energy, or both equally. My suggestion is to start by tapping into whichever feels most comfortable for you to explore.

You can tap into these energies in more ways than just sexually -- and again, I would recommend Emily's book for more information and techniques on that (although she is more scientific in her approach, which is totally chill and still helpful!).

I now present to you a simple visualization exercise to help you tap into your Feminine/Masculine energy/energies.

Divine Feminine/Masculine Energy Visualization Exercise

  1. Find a comfortable position and relax with your eyes closed.

  2. Once you become comfortable, do the 5-5-5 breathing technique: breathe in for 5 seconds, hold for 5 seconds, and breathe out for 5 seconds. Do this at least 3 times and up to 10 times. (You can do the 4-7-8 breathing exercise as well.)

  3. Visualize your body. Take some time to notice what you look like, what you are wearing, and where you are located. Notice all aspects of your body and Inner Soul. Find somewhere peaceful to go if you visualize yourself in a stressful or negative situation. Being somewhere out in nature is always a good go-to spot.

  4. Make sure to not hold judgment for any parts of yourself that you don't like. Remain neutral. Keep looking at yourself. Do this for around 3 minutes. If any thoughts arise, gently brush them aside.

  5. Now imagine you are enveloped in either Divine Feminine or Divine Masculine energy, or both. What does the energy look like to you? How does it surround and fill your body? Are there parts of your body that "light up" or are filled with the energy more than other parts? Stay here and be observant for around 5 minutes. The energy may shift around or stay the same.

  6. After the 5 minutes is up, slowly come back to your present awareness. I recommend taking notes of all that you saw, heard, and felt during the visualization. If you feel comfortable, you can share your experience in the comments down below.

I hope the exercise was helpful!

With love,

Brittney xx

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